Blog Boss Empowerment

Love at First Blog – The Connection

Have you ever gone onto a blog website and instantly connected with the writer?

There are many websites that of course this doesn’t happen with, but how magical is it when it does! You click through posts and find that your own personal ‘light bulb’ goes on from what they’re saying, the layout and the feel of the theme connects with you and you find common themes with your blog content.


I often find myself drafting an abundance of posts on my travels or noting down ideas and then realizing ‘oh, I’ve just found a blogger that I love and they’ve already written about this topic’.

I was about to can a recent draft of a post where this had happened. I felt as though this may be seen to be ‘copying’ to some level and I felt really bad (even though I had written the post well before!). I thought through this and decided against it.

Why you ask?

Two reasons.

One | Ideas can come in many forms – you may get inspiration from a discussion with someone, from walking down the street, from reading a newspaper, from watching a movie or TV show. As much as we like to feel every idea of ours is completely original, the chances are that someone has written on the topic prior. There are literally millions of bloggers all wanting to reach their audiences with their view points and express themselves. Which brings me to my next point…

Two | Look up and now down – This may not make sense – give me a second to explain! I realized in my immediate guilt stricken thoughts that I wasn’t actually copying this woman’s blog or post – I had actually just found a blog that I liked and connected with – and it firmed up my find when I saw that we had a similar topic! After I realized this, it got me thinking about actually saying to myself ‘this woman’s blog is actually amazing and should be celebrated – I’ve found another great blog to follow (yay!)’. Which is why I should actually be looking up and not down on this issue!

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I’m also a big believer in celebrating people in general and their achievements which is why I will most likely feature this blogger in another post I am doing about highlighting my favorite blogs!

It’s also been highlighted to me that I can be hard on myself (like many of us!) so I asked Mr ‘google’ about how many others had done either a blog post or article on this topic.. Turns out about 13 pages of google hits at 10 options per page… quite a few!

Feeling much better about it now… =)


What blogs do you feel you connect with and why?




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  • Reply Natalina Sents

    I know exactly what you’re talking about when you say that lightbulb feeling! I love it! 🙂

    09/03/2016 at 10:05 AM
    • Reply Black & White Insider

      I had another beautiful lady comment before and said the term ‘blog crush’ 🙂 love that feeling!

      29/03/2016 at 1:01 PM
  • Reply Dia @ All The Things I Do

    I love that feeling.There is so much awesome content out there but not everyone will make your blogger heart flutter. I have developed some major blog crushes. Probably too many to name.

    09/03/2016 at 2:31 PM
    • Reply Black & White Insider

      A blog crush is the perfect term! 🙂 I need to start collating a list of all my favorites! 🙂

      29/03/2016 at 12:48 PM
  • Reply Anne

    Interesting topic! I do think there are lots of people writing about the same things, simply because that’s what they find interesting, and not because they’re copying. I have however once rescheduled a post, because the day before it was supposed to be published a big blogger wrote a very similar post. It was purely coincidence, but I was afraid it would seem like I was copying her…
    I think it’s wonderful that you want to celebrate other bloggers, love is always welcome in the community

    xx Anne / Annesmiles

    16/03/2016 at 7:43 PM
    • Reply Black & White Insider

      Good point Anne! I love supporting other bloggers, there are such talented people in this world! xx

      29/03/2016 at 12:45 PM
  • Reply Corinne

    There’s so many blogs out there, it’s almost impossible to have an original idea!

    It’s such a great feeling when you connect with bloggers though 🙂

    30/03/2016 at 5:22 AM
  • Reply Jenn

    I love this post! I wrote about the importance of community over competition recently and I feel your thoughts just affirmed it. Nothing is new under the sun so I don’t believe it’s possible for many to feel someone is stealing their idea. “Admire and acquire” while celebrating those you who have inspired you 🙂

    Love this and your page! Thanks for stopping by Quite a Novel Idea recently also

    13/04/2016 at 10:36 AM
    • Reply Black & White Insider

      Such a great point 🙂 Thanks for commenting and look forward to following your blog in the future 🙂

      19/04/2016 at 9:51 PM

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