We’d all love a euphoric state of mind most of our days – right? Or we’d at least expect this after our morning caffeine hit! Unfortunately for most of us, we can often forget the good in our days overall and focus on the negative aspects, no matter how small. Suddenly an issue or conversation which may have taken up 30 seconds of our time, will be something we think about for the rest of our day, resulting in a bad mood, decreased productivity and sometimes health affects (stress, headaches etc).
I am guilty of this!
It took me a while to really address this and not completely blame other people or the situation in itself – like for all of us, this is simply human nature to deflect. Over many months, I realized I had a choice (it’s not as easy as it sounds- I know!) and I could take steps to progress my days in a more positive light.
I’m certainly not saying this more positive mindset will work every day (there are really days where perhaps staying in bed would have been the best choice or when not even a morning coffee helps!), and this type of thinking is not a magical fix by any means, however what I’ve learned is that each day it gets easier and you will find yourself gravitating to people and situations which fit your more positive mindset. Particularly in a working environment, or social situations where you cannot always control or choose who is around you – it’s important to recognize the tone and message of how people are speaking, or it may even be their body language or general attitude for example. By acknowledging their negativity in your thinking, you automatically present a choice – to agree with the person or situation and absorb that negative energy – or like how I now do– begin to realize it’s not how I would like to feel and think and to immediately say to yourself ‘that is so negative, I’m glad that is not how I feel’ (for example).
Again – this type of thinking and really separating myself from this thinking was really foreign and is still a work in progress. However, I can definitely say that I am happier and my way of engaging with people has also improved – to the degree that a colleague actually mentioned that I was the happiest he’d ever seen me in three years!
I’m also quite a practical thinker and logic of situations quite often takes over, but there is no doubt that this thing called ‘energy’ (positive & negative) actually exists in us humans.
It got me thinking recently – how can I continue to cement this way of thinking into my daily routine? What is something that I can do to ensure at least once or twice in the day, I am smiling and being grateful or happy over something, no matter how bad my day was (or at least how I perceived it) 🙂
A while ago on social media, I saw a campaign called ‘100 Happy Days’, which promotes posting a picture each day and associating why that place, person or thing etc has made you happy – you goal is to do this over 100 consecutive days( and link to the hashtag #100happydays). I have done this before and loved it! It promotes a level of happiness & gratitude within your day, which you acknowledge among family, friends and even the world. It’s not to show off expensive things or be fake in having a perfect life – it is literally to say big and simple things like:
‘I had a fantastic coffee and I really needed it this morning’ (inset picture of delicious coffee) or ‘I started reading a great book today’ (insert great book cover here).
I am going to start this again from tomorrow (and start my positivity party!) and will post my 100 days via Instagram (@blackandwhiteinsider) and maybe a blog post here and there on how it’s going along the way!
Below is the website for this campaign, and I’d encourage you to try this too! Tag me on Instagram too, I’d love to see what makes you happy!